Secrets to Success (I Dare you to read to the end)

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I’m a complainer. I complain about everything! I complain in my head to myself. I complain about others. I complain out loud to myself, and I complain to others.

After having said that, it would come as no surprise to you that the past couple of days I’ve been…complaining.

Mostly about my recent business endeavors not panning out like I wanted them to. In my (opened-just-this-month) business, MaidInNWA, we’ve been looking for quality cleaners for a month. I researched some local cleaners, contacted them and finally found some potential cleaners who I met over coffee last week.

I traveled 15 miles to meet them, paid for their drinks, and spent an hour or so talking with them. After hearing about the work opportunity, they told me they were excited! They were excited about the opportunity to work with me. And I was excited back.

I had a great feeling about them too. I thought they would be a perfect fit for our business!

And then I received the message.

Today.

They notify me TODAY telling me that they don’t want the job.

So, back to the drawing board.

Back to square one.

I’ll be honest here. I started feeling sorry for myself a bit. I got really frustrated and just wanted to quit. After investing so much time, effort, energy, and money into these people, they turned out to be just another dead end. I felt kind of gypped.

I had this expectation, and then reality hit. Dream destroyed.

That leads me to tell you this:

I got a real kick in the pants today.

A big one.

My husband showed me these videos I’m about to share with you. They are truly amazing. I’ll say it again because you might have missed it: These videos are AMAZING! The message has forever changed my life. Already.

They’re about the secrets to success, and I encourage each and every one of you who are reading this right now to watch both videos ALL THE WAY THROUGH.

And then share. (With everyone!)

You don’t want to miss this! If you strive for success in anything: your marriage, your grades, your business, whatever- watch this. The first video is 9 minutes long and the 2nd video 5 minutes. That equates to 14 minutes of your time. Spend a little less time watching T.V. tonight, or playing Candy Crush Saga so you can watch these videos.

I’m serious! You’ll be glad you did.

Eric Thomas-Secrets to Success (part 1) (9min): 

Eric Thomas-Secrets to Success (part 2) (5min): 

If you’re not able to watch or don’t like watching videos, here are some quotes from Eric’s videos that stood out to me in a powerful way.

None are more important than the rest, so here goes:

“If you really want to be successful, you’ve got to be willing to give up sleep. That’s how bad you’ve gotta want it. Listen to me, you’ve gotta want to be successful so bad that you forget to eat!”

“Sleep is for those people who are broke. I don’t sleep. I got an opportunity to make a dream become a reality.” – 50 Cent when asked “When do you sleep?”

“Don’t cry to give up, cry to keep goin! Don’t cry to quit! You’re already in pain, you’re already hurt! Get a reward from it! Don’t go to sleep until you succeed!”

“All men are created equal, some work harder in pre-season.”

“When I went to college guys were way smarter than me, 4.0’s, 3.0s, they went to the Ivy League Highschools- most of them are not doing what I’m doing. Why? ‘Cause it’s not about where you come from. It’s about heart. You come to a place where being smart ain’t enough. You gotta have heart.”

“The most important thing is this: You’ve gotta be able, at any moment, to sacrifice what you are for what you will become.”

“The problem is, you ain’t never felt no pain before- you soft! It’s a soft generation! You quit on everything! You quittin’ and you ain’t even tryin’!”

“Pain is temporary. It may last for a moment, for a day, or even a year. But eventually, it will subside. And something else will take it’s place. If I quit, however, it will last forever.”

“I was homeless for 2 years. And the problem with most of you is that you’ve never felt no pain before. You’re spoiled. Some of ya’ll spoiled, bottom line. Your parents have done everything for you. You ain’t never had to do nothin’ for yourself, you’re spoiled. We’re gonna keep it real tonight, some of you are spoiled brats! Everytime you ever got in trouble somebody in your house got you out of it…Some of you have never learned to grow up. So everytime somethin’ gets hard, you quit, you call momma. I DARE you to take a little pain. I dare you.”

“At the end of pain is success! You ain’t gonna die, because you felt a little pain!”

“You’ve got to give it everything you got.”

So that’s it. Those are the secrets. It’s all about heart. It’s about keepin’ on keepin’ on when the going gets tough. It’s about fighting through even when you feel like giving up. It’s about feeling pain, and taking notice, and then moving forward anyway. It’s about looking your fears straight in the eyes and charging at them, full speed. It’s determination. It’s sacrifice. It’s heart.

With that, I’d just like to say: Thank you Eric Thomas. Wherever you are out there, thank you! May you be blessed in your time on this beautiful earth. You have forever changed my life in a positive way, so I thank you.

What are your thoughts on success? Feel free to comment below with your answers!

Peace & Love,

Where I’m supposed to be

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So truth be told..

I’m feeling pretty awesome.

Right now, in this moment, cloud bazillion.

And I love it.

I’m coffee’d up, I’m going after my goals, I’m putting all my ducks in their proverbial rows.

I feel like I’m where I’m supposed to be. And in fact, (in my journey through life,) I truly am exactly where I need to be. (And you are too.)

And what a relief that is!

For me, I compare it to being in a foreign country. You’ve got a destination in mind and you’re waiting for your bus to come. You don’t know anyone. You don’t speak the language. Everything is foreign to you. You’re just sitting at the bus stop. Waiting.

You notice the time is getting later, and…no bus.

You tell yourself, “It will be here any second!”

But you really don’t know. You can’t know for sure.

You start freaking out. You wonder if the bus is simply late, or if you missed the bus all together. Or worse, what if you read your ticket wrong? What if you’re in the wrong place?!

You check your ticket. You reassure yourself you’re where you need to be.

But you’re nervous. (Insert my internal dialogue here: “What if this? And what if that? And if this and that happens, then that means that!”)

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And then..

It shows up.

The bus shows up! It has finally arrived!

What a relief! No second-guessing. No mental freak-outs. Just you, in the moment, realizing you’re in the right place. You’re okay. You’re going to make it.

Life is funny sometimes. At times you’re in the deepest dark hole of despair.

And anguish.

And pain.

You feel like you might just, well, bleed out. Life is looking pretty bleak and you feel there’s not much hope left for you. You feel horrible.

But at other times, you feel amazing. You are on fire! In the air. Soaring so high, shooting through the clouds.

And it’s thrilling! And you’re happy! Everything’s working out in your favor. It’s effortless.

This is just life. We’ve all got our ups, we’ve all got our downs. And we’ve got to take both as they come and do our best at responding to situations in a positive way.

You can feel awesome more often, but you must be purposeful in your actions. It takes doing the hard work, setting the vision for your life-and going after your true passions to get to floating. Floating up, up, up and away into the atmosphere. Where time is no boundary.

Where you are safe. And loved. And happy. And succeeding. You’re really doing it!

Like a feather in the wind, you’re carried off to a better place.

And all the while you know, you created that place, and you know it well.

So here’s my challenge to you and my challenge for myself: Set some goals, find your passions by going after what you want, and do what you really want in life.

If you don’t know what that looks like, (what it is you really want), then go and figure it out! Go hang out at a coffee house with a notebook and a pencil and get to writing. Title your page “What do I Want?” and go from there.

Then take it back.

Take your freaking life back!

I love you.

Peace & Love,

❤ Brittany

Random Acts of Kindness

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Today I decided that I would act out one random act of kindness. I didn’t know what ‘kind act’ I would choose, but by the end of the day I had to get out of my comfort zone and do SOMETHING for someone else. That was my challenge to myself.

I laid down some personal rules:

  • I will get out of my comfort zone.
  • I will form my act of kindness out of the goodness of my heart and not out of feelings of guilt or that I ‘should’ do something.
  • My act of kindness must involve a stranger. (I can not know the person receiving my act of kindness!)
  • I promise not to tell others about my random act of kindness.

So, that’s it. Four basic rules (or guidelines) I will go by to accomplish my challenge.

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To be honest, I felt nervous after deciding that I was going to do this. I felt scared…about my own challenge to myself! But, nevertheless. I had to do this. Because deep down, I wanted to do this.

I finally found the perfect opportunity and got up the guts to follow through on my challenge. I wanted to do something nice for someone. To make someone feel special, noticed, important. To just let someone else know that they matter, even when they don’t feel like they do.

I vowed not to tell anyone about my act of kindness, but let’s just say that a sweet old lady was quite dumbfounded and speechless when the act of kindness found her. She was surprised! Happy. Relieved. But even more so…she was extremely shocked.

I was glad she didn’t try to give back my act of kindness or reject it.  Her exact words were “I don’t understand. Why did you do that?” I tried to play off my act of kindness because she wasn’t supposed to know it was me, but she found out anyway. I just gave her a confused look and told her “I don’t know what you’re talking about…Have a great day!” I simply gave her a big grin and went on my merry way.

There was something a bit unsettling about all this. What bothers me is the fact that she just couldn’t understand “Why? Why would someone do this for me?” The real question should be: “Why not?!” The real question should be “Why don’t we all do this more often?”

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So that is my challenge to myself: I have placed on my calendar a monthly random act of kindness day-so that no matter what, I will do one random act of kindness one time every month.

Over time, I hope to increase from one day a month to maybe twice a month, and from there: once a week! Then…once a day!

(Okay, I might be getting ahead of myself here. But I am totally serious about this! )

We can only make the world a better place by doing better things in it ourselves. I hope I can improve the world with my existence. Will you choose to do the same?

Thanks for reading! And thank you for being a part of my life. I love you friend!

Peace & Love,
❤ Brittany

We all just want to be loved

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Each and every one of us is in a constant effort to feel loved. That feeling that helps us to believe we can do anything. To feel that feeling that gives us purpose and meaning. We all want to feel important. To feel in control. To feel confident and empowered.

And whether we realize it or not, we all take actions, and speak words to help us achieve these feelings. These feelings of success, of beauty, of pride, of wealth.

We can turn real mean and angry and puff up to gain that feeling of power and control over others. We might seclude ourselves and cry and feel depressed until we get the attention and love that we need. We might throw a big fit and turn into toddlers to get our way, out of fairness. And, we might bully or hurt others (on purpose) to gain that feeling that ‘justice has been served.’

I work with children everyday, and one thing they have taught me is that everyone just wants to be loved. Everyone! We all want to feel special. We all want to be comforted when we feel down. To be praised when we do something noteworthy.

So let’s start today off right. The next time you know someone is having a rough day, give them a hug! Ask them how you can help. If someone just accomplished something big in their life, give them a high-five! A pat on the back. Some positive feedback. And if someone is feeling down, lend them some words of encouragement.

We don’t have to pretend everything is grand in our world for fear of others being spiteful. Be real, and others will be real too. They’ll choose to respond and you’ll choose to be grateful when they do.

I love you so much!

I just know that we can become the change we want to see in the world, and it starts now with our words & actions toward others. Let’s show our love and kindness to everyone, so that our world might be a kinder world because of it.

Peace and love always,
<3Brittany

Walls

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Today is Easter and the sound of the rain falling to the earth is therapeutic to my soul. I feel comforted. I don’t feel so alone when the rain comes. It’s like nature puts a blanket of water around me, telling me every thing’s going to be alright. Nature has a way of giving me what I need at just the right moment sometimes.

I went Tanyard Creek this morning. It’s an overcast morning. Rainy and drizzly. I love days like these.

I’m more contemplative.

I find out new things about myself on days like today.

Tanyard Creek is a place my family and I came to many years ago to capture some family moments.

We took family photos. My mom, dad, brother, sister, brother & law and neice were all here. We were together. We were a family. Not perfect by any means, but a family unit nonetheless.

I feel grateful for these memories I hold in my heart. Times may not have been the best, but we made it through and kept on keepin’ on anyway.

Memories like these can be bittersweet though. My parents are going through rough times now. They are no longer together. My family just feels broken. And I guess it is, in a way. And it makes me feel sad.

And angry.

And frustrated.

Sometimes I just want to give up. It’s hard. Life is just hard sometimes.

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I stood in the rain with my hot cup of tea and watched the water trickle down the rocks. I listened to the waterfall up ahead and sat there in the moment. I experienced it for what it was. I was present in my moment and allowed myself to feel whatever emotions came up. I did not turn them away or ignore them. I invited the pain, the laughter, the tears. Whatever I needed to feel and experience, I allowed it.

I cried. I longed for the comforts of my past and for security in my future.

I’m going through a confusing time in my own life, trying to decide what I want and how I’m going to get it. My marriage isn’t what I want it to be. My siblings and I are growing up and finding out that life isn’t always pleasant. In fact, life is full of growing pains. The general pains of every day life.

I discovered something today: In the midst of my overwhelmingly emotional experience, I came to realize something about myself. I’ve put such an effort to be so tough. To be so “okay” that I started building walls.

I began to build walls around my heart.

I put up a defense so I couldn’t get hurt. (It hurts to get hurt.)

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And as I stood there in my moment, I listened to a song. It spoke directly to my soul.

These words were meaningful to me:

“Hello my old heart, it’s been so long
Since I’ve given you away

And every day
I add another stone
to the walls I’ve built around you
to keep you safe..

..Nothing lasts forever
Some things aren’t meant to be
But you’ll never find the answers
Until you set your old heart free…”

So today I decided to set my old heart free.

I cried, and I set my old heart free.

So I ask you the question: What do you need to set free in your own life?

Thanks for reading friend. I love you.

Peace & Love,
❤ Brittany

It’s amazing how much your life can change in just one day

Dwight Schrute is a crazy nut. If you’ve never watched the television show The Office, I highly recommend it. I love that show! And Dwight. Ha, he makes me laugh my pants off! So he has this quote that goes something like this: “It really is amazing how your life can change in just one day.” It’s in season 9 episode 21. (Watch it. You won’t be sorry!)

This quote is hilarious in context (again, you’ll have to watch to know what happens!) but Dwight’s really got a point here. In one day, your life can change in tremendous ways. You find a new love. You find out someone you love has passed on. You realize just how big of a mistake you made, or rather, you finally realize just how amazing you are.

Yesterday was a HUGE day for me. I met up with a girl I had met only once before. I followed her blog, and I thought she was pretty cool- you know, she liked some of the same things I liked, enjoyed some of the activities I enjoyed- So I was excited to meet her over coffee when the opportunity arose to do so.

Little did I realize…this would be the beginning of the rest of my life.

So for those of you who must know, her name is Kimberly. What a beautiful name. And what a beautiful heart. She has rocked my world!

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(She’s on the left!)

Kimberly is a life coach. And she is awesome at what she does. We met to chat over coffee about life and I left with the confidence to conquer the world!

And I’m doing it now, as we speak. (In my own way, of course. We can all conquer our own worlds! I take no dibs on conquering your world for you 🙂 You can have it!)

She has inspired me to do what I want, no matter what. She has given me actual tools to use in my personal life to help me achieve more by recognizing my thoughts, thought patterns, and how I act because of them.

Underneath it all, our lives- our successes, & our failures- lie our thoughts. They’re always with us, behind the scenes. Sometimes we don’t even realize. They control our lives. They control how we react to things. They control how we perceive our world and what we do in the world we call ours.

Kimberly reminded me of this.

She reminded me to:

  • Do what I want.
  • Be my own best friend.
  • Do more things by myself, because why not? I’m the coolest person I could dream of spending time with! (I like all my favorite things, I enjoy all my favorite foods..)
  • Be more independent (that’s a huge one for me. I’m not as independent as I want to be!)
  • Stop asking for permission in my own life.
  • Make my own decisions, regardless of what other people want me to do, regardless of what other people think.
  • Build myself up.
  • Be amazing.
  • Love myself and cherish just being me.

And that’s not even the half of it, friends. We were at the coffee shop for an hour and look how many take-aways I left with!

I love this girl. She’s perceiving and she’s understanding. She listens (intently to my every word.) She’s basically someone I’d love to partner with for life-as a colleague, a life coach, and most importantly as a friend. She truly rocked my world yesterday, and I plan to be blown away by her again in my immediate future.

I chose her as a life coach, as a counselor, as a partner in crime, as a life long friend who’s got my back no matter what.

If you’d love for someone to shake the fear out of you, to inspire you (and give you the tools) to become the best version of yourself possible, and to give you a clear vision and practical steps to achieve your wildest dreams, then contact Kimberly today. She would love to meet you!

My life changed drastically in just one day. And I know yours can too.

So…Action steps to take to change your destiny:

1.) Email Kimberly (kimberly@revolutionarylivinginstitute.com)

2) Tell her (in your email) that you’d like to take her up on her limited-time offer to do a free coaching session.

3.) And…that’s basically it!

I promise you your life will drastically improve, from just one meeting with her. Oh, and don’t forget to mention that Brittany Marley sent you! (She will do a free session with you!) 🙂 Yippee!!

❤ I love you!

Peace & Love,
Brittany

Check out her cool Facebook page and Blog:

Kimberly’s Facebook Page
Kimberly’s Blog-(Get to know her better)
–Kimberly’s Email Address: kimberly@revolutionarylivinginstitute.com

Go now and change your life!