Dinosaurs, Donuts, and Security Blankets

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I met a boy named Ben. He was an outgoing little fellow. Maybe 11 years old. Short. Squatty. Bright personality. And talkative. Very talkative.

He invited me to come to his Jurassic World Party. It wasn’t his birthday party, but a celebration.

I asked him what it was going to be like. What I should expect.

He tells me “There will be donuts.. dinosaurs.. but not real dinosaurs.. cake.. decorations…and would you like to come?”

I can tell after further observation that the party is not exactly “real.” It was definitely real to Ben though, so I played along.

I told him “Maybe, I would love to come! We’ll have to see..”

He seemed content with my answer. After all, I didn’t say no.

His grandpa later shows up telling me that he has to go look for Ben’s toy dinosaur. He told me that Ben left it somewhere, and it wouldn’t be good if he couldn’t find it.


And that got me to thinking.

We as humans get attached easily, don’t we? To things. People. Places. Ideas.

And the older we get, the stronger that attachment grows.

We all have our own dinosaurs in our lives. Our security blankets.


I’m on vacation with my family this week and I’ve realized some things about myself. (Family is good for that. They seem to know how to annoy or upset you at just the right times 😉 )

No, but what I’ve realized is that my life is FULL of security blankets.

One of my biggest security blankets is having healthy food that I feel comfortable eating. I noticed that I get anxiety if I don’t have, or don’t know where I will get the food that I need.

So, to prevent the anxiety, I bring food with me everywhere.

If I have to go to a new restaurant, cafe, or grocery store, and don’t know what to expect, and don’t know if my needs will be met, I start feeling the twinge of anxiety creeping up.

The twinge of discomfort. The stress of being out of my element. Out of my comfort zone.

And it doesn’t feel good.

I literally bring a jar of water with me everywhere I go.

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  • I fear that the water somewhere else won’t be “good enough.”
  • That I’ll dehydrate myself if I don’t bring it with me.
  • That I won’t find water wherever I go.

There’s always that nagging voice in the back of my mind saying “What if I can’t find water?”

And my chest starts to tighten. I get anxious. I feel nervous. Uncomfortable.

It’s as if I live in a constant state of emergency. Living in a state of “What if?”

I could literally question everything I do, all day long, and get no where.

We all could.

We all do sometimes.

(And that’s not necessarily a bad thing, but good to realize and be aware of.)


So this leads me to my challenge for the day. To you. To myself.

I challenge all of us to think about our own personal security blankets. What are the dinosaurs in our lives?

Let’s ask ourselves why we have them. And are the serving us?

Because if they’re not, why keep them around?


Today’s the day to start unraveling those blankets.

Then go outside. ANd live a little.

‘Cause if not now, when?

Thank you for reading. Thank you for showing up today and being present.

Thank you for being you.

I love you.

❤ Brittany

Excited as ever. Scared to death.

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I think we’ve all been here before.

We have a new, life-changing opportunity- say we landed a new job, found out we were pregnant, found the love of our life, bought a new home, got accepted to that highly esteemed university miles away from home.

And it’s interesting. When we’re really watching, we find that our emotions can be completely confusing.

On one hand, we’re really excited: “New life, Here we come!” And on the other hand we’re totally and extremely scared to death.

We introduce worry into our lives asking questions like:

– “What if I fail?”
– “What if I’m not good enough?”
– “What if I don’t measure up, and make a fool of myself?”

It’s this internal battle between excitement and fear that makes us feel so..

Confused.

We start questioning ourselves:

– “Was this the right move?”
– “Why the heck did I do this?”
– “Is this really even what I want?”


I bring this up because an amazing opportunity has been offered to me.

I went out in search of it, and things unfolded into something that has the potential to be a beautiful thing.

It’s not set in stone quite yet, so I’ll have to keep the details of it a secret for now.

But my emotions…Now those I can share with you! (And those of you who know me personally understand that I have plenty of them to go around!) 🙂

So more about this opportunity and my internal battle around it.

Awesome & Exciting Aspects:

  • It would be an amazing change of pace
  • Different, (better?) lifestyle
  • Adventure, and lots of it
  • New friends
  • Helping make a difference in people’s lives
  • Increase my personal independence and confidence
  • Multiple new opportunities
  • Learn another culture and language

Scary & Uncomfortable Aspects:

  • Long way from home, family, & friends
  • New surroundings/ way of life
  • Have never done it before, afraid of failure and not being good enough
  • Scared it won’t be as awesome as I think it will be
  • Afraid of being taken advantage of, since I’m new to it
  • Fear of looking stupid and people laughing at me
  • Scared my cat (my ultimate soul mate in life) will pass away while in my absence
  • Will be away for a while

I understand logically that the experience will be what I make it. I ultimately have the choice to see the positive side to the process. Not dwell on the less-than-great aspects.

I understand that nothing is permanent. I won’t be there forever. I won’t be in any one place forever for that matter. I ultimately have the choice to leave whenever I want. Because I can.

So I guess I’m coming to a possible conclusion that in order to welcome any change into our lives, we must be willing to let go of the stories. Let go of the thoughts that aren’t serving us. Because the truth is that I don’t know anything. I don’t know anything at all.

Maybe I’ll die later today and all my worries would be for nothing. The truth is that I don’t know what things will happen, good or bad. No one does.

So through this process of excitement and doubt, and the torn emotions I’ve been experiencing, I’ve come to realize that life is all about balance. It’s constant struggle to find the balances in our thoughts. Our emotions. Our lives.

Every moment is precious. Let’s start living each moment like we really believe that. When you start thinking thoughts that are full of worry, obsessing over the same old things, getting the same old results -(anxiety, depression, resentment, fear)- Acknowledge them, and allow them to pass.

Let them go.

Allow yourself to be free. Free from the mental clutter. The incessant chatter. Find the balance.

Be the balance.


Thank you so much for reading! (You made it to the end!)

I love you more than you know.

With all the gratitude a heart can hold,
❤ Brittany

The Present..it’s a gift.

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I was never taught, growing up, about being present. About truly living in the moment. My head was generally up in the clouds somewhere looking to the future. Looking forward to my next ice cream bar, or my next chance at going swimming at the local pool.

It would seem that we are naturally born with this gift, (of being present in the now), but it seems that as we age things change. We learn new things. New ways of thinking. We learn to get stuck in the past, or anxiously await the future and what it has to hold.

For me personally in my adult life, the past had become a sad and dark place. Full of guilt and regret. Full of stories. I would tell myself stories of how I was maltreated in relationships with men. I’d play victim. I’d allow my past to define me as a person.

Who I am.

Who others are.

Assuming all the while that because of past behaviors, people were who they are. And things would never change. They’d be that way forever.

I’d play a story in my mind about my future. I’d say things like, “I can’t.” “I’m not good enough.” Defeating myself before I even began. Defeating myself before puting effort into something I desperately wanted to achieve.

Being present has never been easy for me, and I’m continuously training myself with each day, bringing myself back. Back to reality. Back to myself. In this moment.

“Who am I in this moment right now?”

Presence in life is precious. It’s a gift. That’s why they all it the present. It’s where all the real-time action takes place. The excitement. The misery. The inbetweens. The confusion. All equally important and necessary for living a well-balanced life.

The present is the most important place you could be at any given time. And there are tons of benefits to being fully present. Throughout your day. And in your life.

#1. You can truly listen.

I’s a well-known fact that we all love to be heard. During conversations with others, it’s quite obvious when someone is truly listening to what you have to say and responding–vs–when someone is in their own head, with their own agenda, just waiting for you to close your mouth. They can’t wait just tell you what’s in their mind!

Some people like to just brain-dump on people randomly in conversations instead of keeping engaged in the subject at hand, listening, and responding to what’s happening. Right then. In the moment.

You might find that by becoming more present in life that people will actually want to be around you more and really desire your presence. But you’ve gotta’ listen.

Don’t try and solve their problems. Just listen.

When you’re not in your head calculating — when you’re truly listening — magical things can happen.

This brings me to my next point, because when you’re totally present and truly listening..

#2. You build a foundation of trust.

People confide more in people who are in the moment. It’s like a natural instinct we all have or something.

They can trust, that in the future, you’ll be there. You’ll be that person to go to for guidance, for a shoulder to cry on, for a deeper connection.

When you’re not in your head, creating your own agenda, you can start to help others in a more authentic way.

You can truly be grateful for moments. For other people. For yourself.

And gratitude, as we all know, makes us feel whole. Gives us feelings of abundance.

Which leads to my last point. By being present..

#3. You gain a sense of well-being.

Your health actually improves physiologically when you’re mentally present in all your moments. You can check in to your body and how it feels.

Get a sense of what makes you feel good. What makes you feel great.

You get a good look into the effect people have on you — whether they’re a drain. Or a fountain.

Whether they’re toxic. Or whether nourish you.

You’re not stuck in the past nor the future. You’re experiencing new things. Creating new thoughts and thought patterns.

You just feel better!

You’re not stuck in the story of the past where you play victim and feel sorry for yourself. Feeling victimized for all the things that have ever happened to you.

You’re free.

No longer are you stuck in the future, telling yourself stories of how you can’t get what you want out of life. About how you can’t achieve greatness.

You’re in the present moment. So you just start doing. Start achieving.

You become yourself again. The true you.

Simple. Pure. Real.

YOU.

You’ve arrived home within yourself.

And what a gift.

Afterall, there’s no place like home.


Thank you so much for reading, friend. I am truly grateful for you.

Thank you for being present with me in this moment. It feels good, doesn’t it? 😉

I challenge you to put an effort in becoming more present in your day, and in your life.

Start today! Right now.

Bring yourself back home. Live a richer, fuller life. And just be.

With gratitude and grace,
❤ Brittany

Comments on the site are always welcome! Thanks again friends, you're amazing. ❤

My heart weeps in moments like these

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!WARNING: This is an extremely controversial topic, but I can’t help but share some of my thoughts. You’re welcome to disagree, to quit reading after the first paragraph, or to comment with any thoughts or emotions that are brought up for you.

Keep in mind while reading, that this post is out of love. For the love of the animals! And the planet. ❤ I love you.

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Big truck. Semi. Hundreds of tiny feather-lined cages. Now empty.

Tears fall down my cheeks. I know the truth. I know the torture. Innocent babies. Innocent friends.

Murdered.

Nobody realizes. Nobody realizes the truth.

Super market shelves stocked full of cleaned meats, organized & all prettied up for display. No blood. No tears. Nobody realizes the torture that went into getting that meat from factory farm to market.

I cry. Weep. I feel extreme pains in my chest. My stomach turns.

I was once a murderer too. In a way. I paid others to kill animals, so that I could get my daily dose of protein and flavor. I thought it was the only way. I was once paying for my plates ‘full of fear’ at the local restaurants. Everywhere. Plates full of sadness. I didn’t know. In fact, I had no idea.

I grew up eating this way, why would I ever change?

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It is in these moments that I am so grateful for finding a different path. A new path. A diet that is filled with compassion and love, no animals harmed in the process.

When I see trucks filled to the brim with livestock living beings, my beautiful friends, I want so badly to set them free. I want so badly to purchase them myself and give them home. A kind home, full of love and peace and playfulness. A place where they can live their lives. The way they were meant to.

I believe I will one day own my personal animal sanctuary. I can’t help but feel extreme compassion for living beings. I can’t help but love on all the animals that roam this beautiful earth.

They’re all here for a reason, and I’m not so positive it’s just so we could eat them. They have souls. Just as we do. We wouldn’t eat each other–or our cats, or our dogs, or horses–so what makes a chicken, a fish, a pig, a deer, a lamb, or a cow any different?

They play. They all have the ability to feel joy. Feel fear. Nurture their young, and protect their families from harm. They’re so much like we humans. But we fail to see that sometimes.

This video brings up extreme emotions for me. At 1:17 into the video when the cows start literally jumping in the air, full of happiness and joy, I myself am filled with those emotions 🙂 But it also pains me. I wish all cows could experience life in this way. But they don’t.

This inspires me. Inspires me to make a difference. To create a peaceful planet full of safety and love. A place where all beings look out for one another, despite their species.

But it all starts right here. With me. In order to create the world I want, I must start actually doing things in my own life. Creating real change in myself, in order to create the change I want to see in the world.

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This post wasn’t written to bring up guilt in those who choose to eat meat. It’s not so I can say to everyone “I’m right. You’re wrong.”

I don’t know everything. I only know what I feel and what I experience personally.

The reason I wrote this was to bring up an alternative perspective. I understand that our culture tells us a different story. We’re brought up in homes with parents who teach us their ways, and many of us never question it, let alone change it.

I’m only asking that more people just think about the other side of the story for a second. See if their lifestyles are consistent with their deepest values. I mean really think about it.

And, if during that search within yourself, you find that perhaps your lifestyle doesn’t quite match up with your values, it might be something worth looking into.

Again, I love you. I’m so grateful for you. We’re all here for a reason. Let’s make a positive change in the lives of each other. In the lives of all living beings.

With peace & love and as much gratitude a heart can hold,
❤ Brittany

Photo Credit: Compassion Over Killing – http://www.cok.net/inv/maryland-egg-farms/county-fair-farms/02_4cff05cu3/