I was never taught, growing up, about being present. About truly living in the moment. My head was generally up in the clouds somewhere looking to the future. Looking forward to my next ice cream bar, or my next chance at going swimming at the local pool.
It would seem that we are naturally born with this gift, (of being present in the now), but it seems that as we age things change. We learn new things. New ways of thinking. We learn to get stuck in the past, or anxiously await the future and what it has to hold.
For me personally in my adult life, the past had become a sad and dark place. Full of guilt and regret. Full of stories. I would tell myself stories of how I was maltreated in relationships with men. I’d play victim. I’d allow my past to define me as a person.
Who I am.
Who others are.
Assuming all the while that because of past behaviors, people were who they are. And things would never change. They’d be that way forever.
I’d play a story in my mind about my future. I’d say things like, “I can’t.” “I’m not good enough.” Defeating myself before I even began. Defeating myself before puting effort into something I desperately wanted to achieve.
Being present has never been easy for me, and I’m continuously training myself with each day, bringing myself back. Back to reality. Back to myself. In this moment.
“Who am I in this moment right now?”
Presence in life is precious. It’s a gift. That’s why they all it the present. It’s where all the real-time action takes place. The excitement. The misery. The inbetweens. The confusion. All equally important and necessary for living a well-balanced life.
The present is the most important place you could be at any given time. And there are tons of benefits to being fully present. Throughout your day. And in your life.
#1. You can truly listen.
I’s a well-known fact that we all love to be heard. During conversations with others, it’s quite obvious when someone is truly listening to what you have to say and responding–vs–when someone is in their own head, with their own agenda, just waiting for you to close your mouth. They can’t wait just tell you what’s in their mind!
Some people like to just brain-dump on people randomly in conversations instead of keeping engaged in the subject at hand, listening, and responding to what’s happening. Right then. In the moment.
You might find that by becoming more present in life that people will actually want to be around you more and really desire your presence. But you’ve gotta’ listen.
Don’t try and solve their problems. Just listen.
When you’re not in your head calculating — when you’re truly listening — magical things can happen.
This brings me to my next point, because when you’re totally present and truly listening..
#2. You build a foundation of trust.
People confide more in people who are in the moment. It’s like a natural instinct we all have or something.
They can trust, that in the future, you’ll be there. You’ll be that person to go to for guidance, for a shoulder to cry on, for a deeper connection.
When you’re not in your head, creating your own agenda, you can start to help others in a more authentic way.
You can truly be grateful for moments. For other people. For yourself.
And gratitude, as we all know, makes us feel whole. Gives us feelings of abundance.
Which leads to my last point. By being present..
#3. You gain a sense of well-being.
Your health actually improves physiologically when you’re mentally present in all your moments. You can check in to your body and how it feels.
Get a sense of what makes you feel good. What makes you feel great.
You get a good look into the effect people have on you — whether they’re a drain. Or a fountain.
Whether they’re toxic. Or whether nourish you.
You’re not stuck in the past nor the future. You’re experiencing new things. Creating new thoughts and thought patterns.
You just feel better!
You’re not stuck in the story of the past where you play victim and feel sorry for yourself. Feeling victimized for all the things that have ever happened to you.
No longer are you stuck in the future, telling yourself stories of how you can’t get what you want out of life. About how you can’t achieve greatness.
You’re in the present moment. So you just start doing. Start achieving.
You become yourself again. The true you.
Simple. Pure. Real.
You’ve arrived home within yourself.
And what a gift.
Afterall, there’s no place like home.
Thank you so much for reading, friend. I am truly grateful for you.
Thank you for being present with me in this moment. It feels good, doesn’t it? 😉
I challenge you to put an effort in becoming more present in your day, and in your life.
Start today! Right now.
Bring yourself back home. Live a richer, fuller life. And just be.
With gratitude and grace,
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