Coming back to love

When I come back to a place of love, I don’t feel empty any longer.

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I was just thinking about life.. like I normally do. Deeply analyzing why I’m doing what I’m doing, why I have certain thoughts, why I believe what I believe, and how I’m forming decisions.

Trying to define myself all the while…that’s how I feel secure in life..to have this “role” I define myself by, whether it be job title or family title…but eventually THAT feels constricting because now I’ve placed myself into a box. Limitations creep in and I feel suffocated.

All of this can be quite energy depleting, not to mention overwhelming when I keep it all to myself. Hold it all in.

So I was reading a Wayne Dyer email I received (his family is still sending them out..how amazing is that?!) And the words he wrote were perfect for me to hear at just this exact moment. Something struck a chord in me.

I started balling! In fact, my cheeks are still wet as I write this..

I kept trying to “figure out” who I am in the eyes of others. I know myself, but how does the world see me? My family, my friends, my coworkers, strangers…

How am I showing up on the outside? I know how I’m feeling on the INSIDE…

Are my actions and decisions frowned upon? Should I go after a “soul-calling” to travel and experience the world without “security” of a job? Or should I just stay in one location for the rest of my life to suit everyone else? To hold on to the security of the job? To make others happy…and then maybe I will be too?

And the “conclusive question” I came to is this.. does it even matter?

Who cares what other people think?

Either way, people will think what they want to. Period.

There’s no changing that. I could try to manipulate people into thinking one way or another…but honestly, that’s a whole lot of work for something that truly doesn’t matter.

The real question is…”What do I think?”

That’s more true for me.

I know myself better than anyone else. Sometimes I don’t see things in myself and others help me to see aspects of my personality that I am blinded by..but my truest nature? I KNOW down to my BONES my truest nature.

And that is one of love.

Wayne Dyer is an amazing being.

Here are 2 little excerpts that I’ll leave you with today that totally rocked my world..

“Remove labels attached to your life. Make an attempt to describe yourself without using any labels. Write a few paragraphs in which you do not mention your age, sex, position, title, accomplishments, possessions, experiences, heritage or geographic data. Simple write a statement about who you are, independent of all appearances.

Cultivate your calling. Make an attempt to shift your career objective from self-absorption to a calling. That’s right, a calling. Remind yourself that this is an intelligent system and that you are here to be love and have love by serving. Use your talents and special interests to fulfill your service with your calling. Your life work will take on a dramatic shift toward abundance, and you will feel on purpose and on the path of the sacred quest.””

— Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

Just. Be. YOU.

That is all God asks. That is all the universe asks.

We are all beings of light and love. Go and be that. Today.

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I love you,
❤ Brittany

Five years ALREADY?

So today is my 5-year wedding anniversary..(wow, has it really been five years?!) Interesting how the time goes by whether we ask it to or not..we can’t control it..and after all, time is just a feeling.

Anyway, back to the message at hand.. 😉

So I felt inclined to read through an old letter my husband wrote me last year, that I stumbled upon this morning in my dresser drawer. Of course, I was hit with tremendous waves of emotion..mainly those of deep gratitude, joy, and love.

I am so grateful to get to peek inside his heart at any given moment, day or night, through his gifts of the written word tucked away in notes for only my eyes to see.

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I love that he puts in the time and effort to express his love, devotion, and appreciation to me in his writing. I really am loved. And I am so grateful for that.

I wanted to write a blog-post, well..mainly because I’ve gotta get down to the REALITIES of life, love, and marriage..but ALSO I wrote too much within a single Facebook post (haha!) so I figured I’d transfer it over here where it’s more easily accessed, read, and so on..

Sooo…MARRIAGE. Oh, what to say about marriage.

It’s definitely not what I thought it would be..

It’s MORE.

Like, I never thought a person could encounter so much happiness, and struggle and pain, move through it, and end up on the other side stronger and more in love than ever. And oh, has it been a ride!

I’ve literally wanted to give up more times than I can count, thinking the grass would always be greener on the other side..but then after sticking through the tough times, speaking my truths, being completely torn apart and vulnerable and communicating with words and actions of love..failing with the love part sometimes a lot..but continuing on..

Well, it turns out that keeping both feet in only made for a better tomorrow..and the next day.

There’s a quote I’m reminded of in this moment..”That which is most satisfying is that which is earned. Anything received free of charge is seldom valued. You can’t get something for (from) nothing. The price is too high.” -Kekich Credo #38

So the message I really want to convey today is this: anything actually worth having will require a certain level of persistence, effort, commitment, and understanding. If I have learned anything in my marriage over the past five years, it is that we create our own realities and that we have all the power in the world to cultivate what we want in life… especially in our relationships, not only with ourselves, but with the ones we love most dear.

I am coming to realize that within this experience I call our “humanness,” is wherein lies absolute perfection.

Without the sudden changes, the unknowns, the plans not going according to plan.. all of it is on purpose. And we don’t have to understand right away, or ever know why. But, what we can do, is trust that in someway, whatever happens in our reality is what’s meant to happen. It’s what’s better for us in the long run. Even if we don’t fully understand it in the moment.

My marriage has been filled with all sorts of amazing things: lessons and learning, adventure, passion, love, joy, faithfulness, commitment..but I won’t delude anyone into thinking that it’s been an easy ride..or “perfect” in the sense that nothing painful ever happens.

Just because on my Facebook profile you only see the happy, adventurous, seemingly-perfect moments, doesn’t mean the exact opposite hasn’t been a complete part of my journey here as well. In fact, much of my time has been spent in darker places before the sun could shine through.

In my marriage over the past 5 years, there has been miscommunication, pain, personal suffering, confusion, questioning, fights, arguments, you name it… But in the end, and through it all, my husband and I both have grown tremendously and are exponentially stronger than ever for going through the pain, truly dealing with it, and moving forward.

I hope that this message can shed some light on some of the realities of life. I hope that what you gain from reading these words is that life in itself IS perfection. All of it’s seemingly random moments, the confusion, the pain, the struggle, the loss, and most of all the messiness.

It’s all a part of the journey.

And the more we can honor and embrace those tougher moments, and really GO deep within ourselves to find our truth and deal with what’s coming up for us, the better off we are in the long run.

I was chatting with my friend Brittany just last night..and we talked about the truth that “the old must die off, before the new can come in.” And what a solid truth that is..in ALL aspects of our lives!

So. Here’s to five-years my love! I am now such a radically changed human in comparison to who I was when we first met.. the old has officially died off (and continues to die more every day) and the new is shining through. I see light in our future. Abundance. Joy. Growth. And a whole lotta love.

I love you more than words could ever express and I look forward to the adventures and struggles that lie ahead..which will only serve to move us closer to our goals in healing the world and making it a better place..making a positive impact on those we meet along the way.

Happy sunshiney day! Be a light in the darkness. Find the magic in all the moments. And live with purpose. Joy. And a heart full of love.

Sincerely yours,
❤ B

How rich is YOUR life?

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Life is continually reminding me to take a closer look to the present moments I find myself in. Whether “doing another chore” or “just another day at work,” I’m learning that I can find the love and the beauty and the pure, innocent joy of being within it.

And when we think about it, that’s all we really DO have, are multiple, tiny moments all consecutively pieced together to create our reality we call “life.”

But have you ever thought for a second what would happen if you were to just live fully in each of the tiny moments?

To not be in such a hurry to rush off to the next one…to just fully embody the moment, noticing just how rich and full it really can be?

Something as simple as sitting under this willow tree I find myself under right now can become a truly rewarding, and life-giving experience.

Finding life in the unseemly of places..

Trust me. Just try it out in this moment now! Or the next.

Notice what thoughts or feelings or activities you may be resisting or not looking forward to.

Let it go..

And indulge in the delicacy of the moment that life has to offer you.

Not in the next 5 minutes, but RIGHT NOW.

What can you learn?
What can you notice?
What can you GIVE?

I love you.

My heart is SO full right now..

Full of gratitude.

Full of light.

But most of all..full of LOVE.

❤ B

P.S. You’ll notice that the more present you become, the deeply felt joy there is to find.

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I’ll carry her for always

Friday May 27th 2016.

The day my sweet lady cat left this physical world.

And oh, what a beautiful life.

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I’m just thinking of it now…all the moments.

All the love and the laughter, playfulness and joy.

This girl has touched my life in more ways than I can describe.

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#ForeverMyTinyPaws

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And although she may be gone in physical form, her soul resides within me. I’ll carry her for always.

My beautiful flower, under the willow tree, is now completely at peace. No more pain. No more suffering. No more fear.

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#ForeverInMyHeart #MyTinyFlower

With a newfound appreciation for all forms of life, I am deciding right now in this moment to living my life with more vibrance and brilliance than I could ever dream up.

I want to live a life of no regrets. So that’s exactly what I’m going to do.

Precious kitty-girl, this one’s for you ❤

#ShineBrightly #TheSunWillComeOutTomorrow

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Love always and forever,
❤ B

#AlwaysLookingUp #MommasGotYou

Excited as ever. Scared to death.

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I think we’ve all been here before.

We have a new, life-changing opportunity- say we landed a new job, found out we were pregnant, found the love of our life, bought a new home, got accepted to that highly esteemed university miles away from home.

And it’s interesting. When we’re really watching, we find that our emotions can be completely confusing.

On one hand, we’re really excited: “New life, Here we come!” And on the other hand we’re totally and extremely scared to death.

We introduce worry into our lives asking questions like:

– “What if I fail?”
– “What if I’m not good enough?”
– “What if I don’t measure up, and make a fool of myself?”

It’s this internal battle between excitement and fear that makes us feel so..

Confused.

We start questioning ourselves:

– “Was this the right move?”
– “Why the heck did I do this?”
– “Is this really even what I want?”


I bring this up because an amazing opportunity has been offered to me.

I went out in search of it, and things unfolded into something that has the potential to be a beautiful thing.

It’s not set in stone quite yet, so I’ll have to keep the details of it a secret for now.

But my emotions…Now those I can share with you! (And those of you who know me personally understand that I have plenty of them to go around!) 🙂

So more about this opportunity and my internal battle around it.

Awesome & Exciting Aspects:

  • It would be an amazing change of pace
  • Different, (better?) lifestyle
  • Adventure, and lots of it
  • New friends
  • Helping make a difference in people’s lives
  • Increase my personal independence and confidence
  • Multiple new opportunities
  • Learn another culture and language

Scary & Uncomfortable Aspects:

  • Long way from home, family, & friends
  • New surroundings/ way of life
  • Have never done it before, afraid of failure and not being good enough
  • Scared it won’t be as awesome as I think it will be
  • Afraid of being taken advantage of, since I’m new to it
  • Fear of looking stupid and people laughing at me
  • Scared my cat (my ultimate soul mate in life) will pass away while in my absence
  • Will be away for a while

I understand logically that the experience will be what I make it. I ultimately have the choice to see the positive side to the process. Not dwell on the less-than-great aspects.

I understand that nothing is permanent. I won’t be there forever. I won’t be in any one place forever for that matter. I ultimately have the choice to leave whenever I want. Because I can.

So I guess I’m coming to a possible conclusion that in order to welcome any change into our lives, we must be willing to let go of the stories. Let go of the thoughts that aren’t serving us. Because the truth is that I don’t know anything. I don’t know anything at all.

Maybe I’ll die later today and all my worries would be for nothing. The truth is that I don’t know what things will happen, good or bad. No one does.

So through this process of excitement and doubt, and the torn emotions I’ve been experiencing, I’ve come to realize that life is all about balance. It’s constant struggle to find the balances in our thoughts. Our emotions. Our lives.

Every moment is precious. Let’s start living each moment like we really believe that. When you start thinking thoughts that are full of worry, obsessing over the same old things, getting the same old results -(anxiety, depression, resentment, fear)- Acknowledge them, and allow them to pass.

Let them go.

Allow yourself to be free. Free from the mental clutter. The incessant chatter. Find the balance.

Be the balance.


Thank you so much for reading! (You made it to the end!)

I love you more than you know.

With all the gratitude a heart can hold,
❤ Brittany

The Present..it’s a gift.

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I was never taught, growing up, about being present. About truly living in the moment. My head was generally up in the clouds somewhere looking to the future. Looking forward to my next ice cream bar, or my next chance at going swimming at the local pool.

It would seem that we are naturally born with this gift, (of being present in the now), but it seems that as we age things change. We learn new things. New ways of thinking. We learn to get stuck in the past, or anxiously await the future and what it has to hold.

For me personally in my adult life, the past had become a sad and dark place. Full of guilt and regret. Full of stories. I would tell myself stories of how I was maltreated in relationships with men. I’d play victim. I’d allow my past to define me as a person.

Who I am.

Who others are.

Assuming all the while that because of past behaviors, people were who they are. And things would never change. They’d be that way forever.

I’d play a story in my mind about my future. I’d say things like, “I can’t.” “I’m not good enough.” Defeating myself before I even began. Defeating myself before puting effort into something I desperately wanted to achieve.

Being present has never been easy for me, and I’m continuously training myself with each day, bringing myself back. Back to reality. Back to myself. In this moment.

“Who am I in this moment right now?”

Presence in life is precious. It’s a gift. That’s why they all it the present. It’s where all the real-time action takes place. The excitement. The misery. The inbetweens. The confusion. All equally important and necessary for living a well-balanced life.

The present is the most important place you could be at any given time. And there are tons of benefits to being fully present. Throughout your day. And in your life.

#1. You can truly listen.

I’s a well-known fact that we all love to be heard. During conversations with others, it’s quite obvious when someone is truly listening to what you have to say and responding–vs–when someone is in their own head, with their own agenda, just waiting for you to close your mouth. They can’t wait just tell you what’s in their mind!

Some people like to just brain-dump on people randomly in conversations instead of keeping engaged in the subject at hand, listening, and responding to what’s happening. Right then. In the moment.

You might find that by becoming more present in life that people will actually want to be around you more and really desire your presence. But you’ve gotta’ listen.

Don’t try and solve their problems. Just listen.

When you’re not in your head calculating — when you’re truly listening — magical things can happen.

This brings me to my next point, because when you’re totally present and truly listening..

#2. You build a foundation of trust.

People confide more in people who are in the moment. It’s like a natural instinct we all have or something.

They can trust, that in the future, you’ll be there. You’ll be that person to go to for guidance, for a shoulder to cry on, for a deeper connection.

When you’re not in your head, creating your own agenda, you can start to help others in a more authentic way.

You can truly be grateful for moments. For other people. For yourself.

And gratitude, as we all know, makes us feel whole. Gives us feelings of abundance.

Which leads to my last point. By being present..

#3. You gain a sense of well-being.

Your health actually improves physiologically when you’re mentally present in all your moments. You can check in to your body and how it feels.

Get a sense of what makes you feel good. What makes you feel great.

You get a good look into the effect people have on you — whether they’re a drain. Or a fountain.

Whether they’re toxic. Or whether nourish you.

You’re not stuck in the past nor the future. You’re experiencing new things. Creating new thoughts and thought patterns.

You just feel better!

You’re not stuck in the story of the past where you play victim and feel sorry for yourself. Feeling victimized for all the things that have ever happened to you.

You’re free.

No longer are you stuck in the future, telling yourself stories of how you can’t get what you want out of life. About how you can’t achieve greatness.

You’re in the present moment. So you just start doing. Start achieving.

You become yourself again. The true you.

Simple. Pure. Real.

YOU.

You’ve arrived home within yourself.

And what a gift.

Afterall, there’s no place like home.


Thank you so much for reading, friend. I am truly grateful for you.

Thank you for being present with me in this moment. It feels good, doesn’t it? 😉

I challenge you to put an effort in becoming more present in your day, and in your life.

Start today! Right now.

Bring yourself back home. Live a richer, fuller life. And just be.

With gratitude and grace,
❤ Brittany

Comments on the site are always welcome! Thanks again friends, you're amazing. ❤

Secrets to Success (I Dare you to read to the end)

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I’m a complainer. I complain about everything! I complain in my head to myself. I complain about others. I complain out loud to myself, and I complain to others.

After having said that, it would come as no surprise to you that the past couple of days I’ve been…complaining.

Mostly about my recent business endeavors not panning out like I wanted them to. In my (opened-just-this-month) business, MaidInNWA, we’ve been looking for quality cleaners for a month. I researched some local cleaners, contacted them and finally found some potential cleaners who I met over coffee last week.

I traveled 15 miles to meet them, paid for their drinks, and spent an hour or so talking with them. After hearing about the work opportunity, they told me they were excited! They were excited about the opportunity to work with me. And I was excited back.

I had a great feeling about them too. I thought they would be a perfect fit for our business!

And then I received the message.

Today.

They notify me TODAY telling me that they don’t want the job.

So, back to the drawing board.

Back to square one.

I’ll be honest here. I started feeling sorry for myself a bit. I got really frustrated and just wanted to quit. After investing so much time, effort, energy, and money into these people, they turned out to be just another dead end. I felt kind of gypped.

I had this expectation, and then reality hit. Dream destroyed.

That leads me to tell you this:

I got a real kick in the pants today.

A big one.

My husband showed me these videos I’m about to share with you. They are truly amazing. I’ll say it again because you might have missed it: These videos are AMAZING! The message has forever changed my life. Already.

They’re about the secrets to success, and I encourage each and every one of you who are reading this right now to watch both videos ALL THE WAY THROUGH.

And then share. (With everyone!)

You don’t want to miss this! If you strive for success in anything: your marriage, your grades, your business, whatever- watch this. The first video is 9 minutes long and the 2nd video 5 minutes. That equates to 14 minutes of your time. Spend a little less time watching T.V. tonight, or playing Candy Crush Saga so you can watch these videos.

I’m serious! You’ll be glad you did.

Eric Thomas-Secrets to Success (part 1) (9min): 

Eric Thomas-Secrets to Success (part 2) (5min): 

If you’re not able to watch or don’t like watching videos, here are some quotes from Eric’s videos that stood out to me in a powerful way.

None are more important than the rest, so here goes:

“If you really want to be successful, you’ve got to be willing to give up sleep. That’s how bad you’ve gotta want it. Listen to me, you’ve gotta want to be successful so bad that you forget to eat!”

“Sleep is for those people who are broke. I don’t sleep. I got an opportunity to make a dream become a reality.” – 50 Cent when asked “When do you sleep?”

“Don’t cry to give up, cry to keep goin! Don’t cry to quit! You’re already in pain, you’re already hurt! Get a reward from it! Don’t go to sleep until you succeed!”

“All men are created equal, some work harder in pre-season.”

“When I went to college guys were way smarter than me, 4.0’s, 3.0s, they went to the Ivy League Highschools- most of them are not doing what I’m doing. Why? ‘Cause it’s not about where you come from. It’s about heart. You come to a place where being smart ain’t enough. You gotta have heart.”

“The most important thing is this: You’ve gotta be able, at any moment, to sacrifice what you are for what you will become.”

“The problem is, you ain’t never felt no pain before- you soft! It’s a soft generation! You quit on everything! You quittin’ and you ain’t even tryin’!”

“Pain is temporary. It may last for a moment, for a day, or even a year. But eventually, it will subside. And something else will take it’s place. If I quit, however, it will last forever.”

“I was homeless for 2 years. And the problem with most of you is that you’ve never felt no pain before. You’re spoiled. Some of ya’ll spoiled, bottom line. Your parents have done everything for you. You ain’t never had to do nothin’ for yourself, you’re spoiled. We’re gonna keep it real tonight, some of you are spoiled brats! Everytime you ever got in trouble somebody in your house got you out of it…Some of you have never learned to grow up. So everytime somethin’ gets hard, you quit, you call momma. I DARE you to take a little pain. I dare you.”

“At the end of pain is success! You ain’t gonna die, because you felt a little pain!”

“You’ve got to give it everything you got.”

So that’s it. Those are the secrets. It’s all about heart. It’s about keepin’ on keepin’ on when the going gets tough. It’s about fighting through even when you feel like giving up. It’s about feeling pain, and taking notice, and then moving forward anyway. It’s about looking your fears straight in the eyes and charging at them, full speed. It’s determination. It’s sacrifice. It’s heart.

With that, I’d just like to say: Thank you Eric Thomas. Wherever you are out there, thank you! May you be blessed in your time on this beautiful earth. You have forever changed my life in a positive way, so I thank you.

What are your thoughts on success? Feel free to comment below with your answers!

Peace & Love,

Living Consciously

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So I’ve been reading a lot lately on the idea of living consciously. This way of life is a bit foreign to us these days, where it seems as if everyone is just trying to get by and survive each day as it comes.

Many people form habits on a subconscious level (throughout their life-time) and without even realizing it, do certain things automatically, as if they are on auto-pilot at times.

This is the kind of behavior that can cause us to live less conscious lives than we could be living, and that’s what we will focus on today: the idea of conscious living.

So what does it even mean to ‘live consciously’?

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Well, here’s where I turn to my good friend Nathaniel Branden for his take on the subject, as he knows plenty more than I in this regard!

These are excerpts taken from different sections of his book The Art of Living Consciously that will give us a general view of what this might look like:

“Living consciously has its roots in respect for reality-a respect for facts and truth…living in a rational world. To live consciously, we need to develop what I call ‘a sense of reality.’ One of the meanings of living consciously is: Pay attention to what works, and do more of it, and try to understand the principles involved. And also: Pay attention to what doesn’t work, and stop doing it.”

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Personally, I like the idea of living consciously because it’s a way of life that seeks to keep us in a constant state of awareness. If we seek to live out our days this way, we’re not so easily taken by surprise.

We don’t have that moment when all of a sudden we come to realize we’ve just been ‘going through the motions’ our entire lives, and now it’s too late for a re-do. The time is gone. We cannot get it back.

Living life ‘on purpose’ is conducive to long-term growth and development, and allows you (if you so choose) to grow, and learn, and better yourself in all walks of life.

Many people think that if they were to start living consciously that living life would be too painful, that they wouldn’t be able to deal with their problems or be able to cope with the life they’ve created for themselves.

But I say nonsense.

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I say that by living consciously you will actually do yourself a favor. You will benefit yourself more in the long-run, enabling you to see where you are now in order to make the necessary changes it takes to get to where you want to be.

Live consciously, and be free.

Be aware.

Be love.

If you have any questions, ideas, or opinions you’d like to share, feel free to leave me a note on the site! And as usual, comments and feedback are always welcome : )