What are we committed to?

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What am I committed to? (I ask myself.)

Am I committed to my dreams, going after my destiny, achieving all I’ve set out to achieve, create, and become?

OR…

Am I committed to my story? The internal thought battle going on in my head about how “It’s not fair! I don’t have enough money! I don’t have enough time to work on my (crossing my fingers this works) business, I can’t learn how to play the guitar, I’m not cut out for this, Why me? I’m just not good enough!”

Am I more committed to DOING what I came here to do? Or am I too busy playing victim in my own life?

These are the questions I’m chewing on at the moment.

I have these desires, and dreams, and these callings from my soul that I’m meant for something GREATER than I’m currently showing up as in my daily life right now.

So, I get to have these wonderful conversations, gut-checks really, with myself. And with you.

Here goes nothing, haha!

What are we doing with our lives?

I’ll give you two scenarios:

1. Are we simply letting life pass us by, as we tell ourselves

“Maybe later. I’ll go after my dreams later. I’ll travel later. Right now’s not the best time. I’m not ready yet. I don’t know enough yet. Once I learn how to do build a website, THEN I’ll feel like I’m able to start telling people about my goal to be an entrepreneur. Once I’m older, I’ll be wiser. I’ll know more later, Once I retire I’ll do something about it. Until then, I’m okay. I’ll be okay. I’ll think about it later.”
And then life happens. And we forget. And we let go of all the amazing visions for our lives and settle for what we have now and tell ourselves that staying here forever with no upward shift or change is “good enough.”

OR

2. Are we learning about who we are, what we want, noticing the things (fears) that we allow to get in the way of us taking action, recognizing that “with every day that passes that we’re NOT taking action, (the tiny steps forward), that we are stalling in the face of the enemy…RESISTANCE?

By taking daily calculated actions toward what we want, we grow and learn about ourselves and the true nature of the world in the process. We get EXCITED to wake up each day and DO OUR WORK. The work we were meant to do.

To love fully, with our whole hearts. To find joy in each moment, whether it’s a mini dance party in our kitchen, a walk in our neighborhood, hugging the trees, lying in the sun on a hot summer’s day, taking a warm bubble bath after a hard day’s work, preparing a nourishing and heart warming meal, watching a funny show, hearing our children at play, the sound of laughter, laughing, smelling the roses as we walk by that familiar flower cart, smelling the freshly baked bread outside of the bakery around the corner.

Which scenario do we see ourselves choosing more often on a daily basis?

Do we choose

1. RESISTANCE?

Or

2. FREEDOM?

Are we noticing what we SAY we want, and what we are ACTUALLY taking action on, and DOING on a daily basis?

Do they add up?

Do we REALLY want what we say we want? Or are we fine with simply talking about it but not doing it?
Because the truth is that in every moment, we have a choice. Period.

We have a choice as to how we respond to life as it comes. How we respond to people in difficult and trying situations. We have a choice in the foods we buy at the store and put in our bodies. We have a choice in the kinds of shows we are watching, the music we listen to, the people we surround ourselves with. We have a choice as to WHO WE BECOME.

And who we are to become is born out of our actions, born of decisions, born of beliefs, which are born of our thoughts.

So what are we doing with our thoughts?

Are we committed to staying where we are, or are we committed to growth? Are we committed to telling more people about our problems, or are we committed to solving them?

Are we committed to listening to that voice that tells us to stay small?

Or

Are we committed to acknowledging that GIANT BEAST that lives within each and every one of us, utilizing it’s power to turn the seemingly impossible into POSSIBLE?

Steven Pressfield in his book The War of Art says this:

“The amateur believes he must first overcome his fear; then he can do his work. The professional knows that fear can never be overcome. He knows there is no such thing as a fearless warrior or a dread-free artist.
What henry Fonda does, after puking into the toilet in his dressing room, is to clean up and march out onstage. He’s still terrified but he forces himself forward in spite of his terror. He knows that once he gets out into the action, his fear will recede and he’ll be okay.”

And, wow! I couldn’t have said it better myself. So..in spite of fear, I ask you the question: What life do you REALLY wish to live? What legacy do you want to leave behind?

And most importantly, with these questions in mind..”What are you committed to?”

I love you so so much!! Thank you for reading. We are in this thing together! This thing called life. And all I have to say is..WE GOT THIS!! Whoohoo!!

I’ll see you at the bakery ‘round the corner.. 😉

XOXO,

❤ B.

P.S. Thank you Alexi Panos for the consistent inspiration for this post. I love you sweet soul!!

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Disempowering Beliefs — Will you tolerate them any longer?

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(Writing this on August 2, 2015)

So I had a slight melt down last night. No, let me re-word that, I literally BROKE DOWN last night. Like, all barriers. Gone.

Like, I was super vulnerable, and super scared and I didn’t know how to stop the whirlwind of emotion that was coming upon me.

I’ve been reading lately that it’s best to just sit with my feelings and emotions that I’m feeling instead of push them away.

To stop resisting uncomfortable or painful feelings and to really sit with them and FEEL them.

Recognize that they exist. That they are coming up for a reason.

So. I sat.

And I cried.

No, in fact, I BALLED MY EYES OUT.

And my best friend was there to hold me all the way through it. ( ❤ Thanks Nathan, you're a great friend & husband.)

I told Nathan what I was feeling and it went something like this:

“I’m scared. Like, really scared. I’m afraid that I’m never going to be grounded. I just want to be grounded. I want to know that I can support myself. That I’ll have enough money to provide for myself. I want to know that I’ll be able to eat my next meal. I’m afraid of not succeeding. I don’t believe in myself. I’m afraid I can’t do it. Afraid of failing and never being independent.”

That’s when the coach in him came out. Almost instantly.

He questioned me about what I really want in life.

And I had no idea. I had NO IDEA what I wanted for MY OWN LIFE!

He told me he had recently read in Anthony Robbins’ book Awaken The Giant Within about disempowering beliefs.

He gave me some suggestions on how to overcome these feelings and emotions that were coming up for me.

How to battle my fears and conquer them once and for all.

He went to the bedroom and retrieved his book. Then he read from it, helping me to gain clarity on the exercise I was about to do that would FOREVER CHANGE MY LIFE.

He had me get out a sheet of paper.

Draw a line down the middle.

Label one side of the column: Empowering Beliefs

Label the other side: Disempowering Beliefs

Then, set a timer for 12 minutes.

To write out ALL beliefs I had, empowering and disempowering both, and once the timer goes off to stop writing.

SO I did it.

And a lot came out.

More disempowering beliefs than empowering, but I had a good amount of both.

Then he had me circle the top 3 most empowering beliefs I had written down.

He then had me circle the top 2 most disempowering beliefs.

Then, I was to set another timer, for 2-5 minutes and write out why my 2 disempowering beliefs were false. (Because they most certainly always will be.)

This is called “kicking the legs out from underneath our disempowering beliefs.” Kick the legs out, then turn it around.

Then I was to write out why the exact opposite is true, and even truer for myself.

For example —

My top 2 disempowering beliefs were:

1. I can’t take care of myself.
2. I’m not good enough.

So I wrote out why BOTH BELIEFS are totally & absolutely preposterous.

FALSE.

For your eternal benefit, I decided to type out and publish here in this blog post an exact word-for-word copy of what I wrote on my paper yesterday. If you’re interested in knowing what came up for me, read on!


If I don’t eliminate these ridiculous beliefs from my life, I will be broke, dissatisfied with my life, and will not be proud of myself. I deserve MORE for my life. I am SO INCREDIBLY smart, intelligent, and ABLE to do anything I could ever dream of or imagine!!

When I get down on myself and believe these thoughts, I take away my inner fire. My drive. My essence and life. I am good enough. In fact I’M MORE THAN GOOD ENOUGH. I’m GREAT! I am enough!!

Reasons that PROVE I’m good enough and can take care of myself:

1. I didn’t know how to play piano with the band, but then I just jumped in and started playing. I learned, on the spot, no lessons! Now I know most of the songs and am SO MUCH BETTER! In fact, I’m starting to sound pretty damn good!

2. I didn’t know how to be a health coach and then I just did it! Like…I did that! I have a business now!

3. I didn’t know how to build a website, but then..BAM! I did it! With no outside help other than internet articles.

4. I was afraid of cutting my hair, but then..BAM! I did it! And now I LOVE it!

5. I didn’t know how to be a vegan and give up all my favorite foods and change my lifestyle, but then once I committed to it, BAM! I haven’t gone back since! And I’m so much healthier for it too!

6. I didn’t believe I could quit smoking and then..BAM! I just DID IT! And I haven’t smoked since!

So let’s turn this around..

I CAN take care of myself! Because I’m JUST GOING TO DO IT.

I AM good enough! In fact I’m MORE than enough! I can do this.


So what are your limiting and disempowering beliefs about yourself?

Will you tolerate these lies any longer, or do you wish to rid them of your life completely?

I challenge you to draw a line down the middle of a piece of paper.

Sit down for 12 minutes and list out on one side of the page your EMPOWERING beliefs about yourself and life, and on the other side list out your DISEMPOWERING beliefs.

Circle the top 2 DISEMPOWERING beliefs and knock the legs out from under them.

PROVE your disempowering beliefs WRONG. Burn them to the ground.

Then turn them around. Write for 2 minutes why the opposite is true. Create EMPOWERING beliefs from the disempowering ones.

Find freedom. Be amazing. Change your life for the better. BECOME YOUR BEST SELF.

I love you!

Kisses and hugs & lots and lots of love,
❤ Brittany

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